When Home Feels Unsettling: Insights from a Young Man Seeking Peace

A man recently shared his frustrations about the challenges in his marriage, despite being together with his wife for over a decade. During this time, he achieved success, but he came to feel that his wife had not contributed to this progress. The man, in a message sent to Queenscourt via WhatsApp, revealed his concerns about his wife's behavior and constant accusations. He highlighted a past incident where his wife questioned him regarding a 15-year-old g!rl he gave a ride in his car. The man explained that he had only offered the girl a ride to a safe location where she could continue her journey home on a bike. However, such actions led to tension between them. Adding to his distress, the man shared that his wife expresses displeasure whenever his mother visits. She has repeatedly opposed the idea of having his mother stay with them, which sparks arguments and creates a rift in their household. These issues, while common, are highly sensitive and often difficult for external parties to address effectively. The complexities of marital relationships require patience, communication, and understanding. Society often avoids discussing difficult family dynamics or marital problems, contributing to the escalation of many unresolved issues. In order to prevent the collapse of relationships or even incidents of violence, these topics must be openly addressed. The man’s story hints at broader societal dilemmas—negative patterns that lead to deeper conflicts if ignored. For example, we remember instances like the 2014 Epstein… To husbands who find themselves in situations similar to this man’s: it is wise to set boundaries that protect you and your family from unnecessary misunderstandings. Offering rides or favors to young girls who are not immediate family members or close acquaintances, no matter how well-intentioned, can lead to misinterpretations and even risks to your reputation. We’ve seen reports, especially in Nigerian universities, where false accusations have caused serious harm to innocent individuals. Protect yourself by being mindful of your actions and appearances. To wives dealing with family conflicts: remember that your husband likely shared a strong bond with his family long before you entered his life. This is particularly true regarding his mother—his first caregiver and a significant presence in shaping who he is today. If circumstances necessitate your mother-in-law living with you due to age or health reasons, try to approach the situation with compassion. In Nigerian society, where institutions for elder care are not widely available or accepted, it is often the children's responsibility to support their aging parents. This reflection is not intended as judgment but as guidance for those navigating challenging relationships within marriage or family. Every story shared here seeks to inform and enlighten society about important issues that often go unspoken but require attention for collective growth and understanding.

Abuse relationship: He insults me about scars I didn't have before we married

As a woman, there are three fundamental things you should never tolerate from a man. To better understand this, let's draw parallels to the teachings of Jesus. When examining what Jesus rejected, it becomes clear what he chose to affirm. He did not dismiss the Old Testament; rather, he stepped away from its flawed interpretations prevalent in his era. For instance, Jesus upheld the true meaning of Deuteronomy 24:1 while shedding light on an often-overlooked clause in the Old Testament regarding marriage and divorce. One notable example is Exodus 21:10-11, which acknowledges a spouse’s rights within the marriage covenant, including food, clothing, and love. This applied even to a slave wife. If these rights were neglected, the injured spouse was permitted to pursue divorce. Interestingly, women, too, had the right to seek divorce for neglect. In these cases, the man was required to grant a formal certificate of separation. If a man refused to comply willingly, legal measures were enforced—even leading to physical coercion by the courts. With this groundwork in mind, here are three things you should never tolerate in relationships: 1) Disrespect and Abuse: Leave any man who belittles you or mocks your pain or scars—especially when those scars represent battles you’ve endured over time, even before marriage. Abuse has no justification, whether it's physical, emotional, or psychological. No religious obligation or societal expectation is worth compromising your dignity and well-being. Value yourself above all else because mental wounds are far harder to heal than physical ones. You are a precious being, worthy of love and respect. Remember that what you see in your reflection is more than skin deep—it’s a reflection of your intellect and your worth as a person. Take care of your mental health and never allow anyone to diminish it. As it is often said, the human heart can harbor wickedness beyond comprehension—an unfortunate but relevant truth. Protect yourself from toxic relationships that only drain your emotional vitality. 2) Exploitation and Selfishness: Guard yourself against men who only appear in your life when they have something to gain. It’s heartbreaking but true that some people will use your intelligence, kindness, or resources to further their own goals, leaving you behind once they're satisfied. This is particularly critical for women living in countries with inadequate protections against exploitation or abuse. Where the law fails to protect you, knowledge and preparation become essential—seek support and protection through qualified legal advice before it's too late. Countless stories have emerged of women, particularly in parts of Africa such as Nigeria, who’ve endured cruelty and injustice at the hands of so-called husbands, sometimes with devastating results. Let me be clear: marriage, while sacred and intended to be a lifelong commitment, is not a matter of life and death. Its original purpose has been misinterpreted and taken advantage of by some to maintain power or control in unhealthy ways. If you find yourself in such a marriage, remember this vow—'for better or for worse'—should not mean tolerating harm or injustice. 3) Infidelity and Neglect: Biblical teachings on marriage emphasize faithfulness and mutual respect. Infidelity is one of the few valid reasons for divorce according to scripture (Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9; 1 Corinthians 7:15). Betrayal in any relationship erodes trust and dignity. If you find that kind of disloyalty or consistent neglect in your marriage or partnership, have the courage to walk away. By doing so, you empower yourself to rebuild your life and embrace a future filled with integrity and respect. Remember, staying in a marriage despite infidelity won’t restore its foundation. Particularly troubling are instances of men engaging with other women while disregarding their partners’ contributions—whether educationally, professionally, or personally. Such behavior indicates poor character and a lack of maturity. In conclusion, love can be one of life’s greatest blessings when shared with the right person—but not at the expense of respect, self-worth, or dignity. Marriage and relationships thrive on mutual support, love, trust, and commitment—not toxicity or betrayal. There’s much more to explore on this topic, but for now, I’ll leave it here: value yourself enough to walk away from anything that does not serve your happiness or honor your soul. Life is precious—you deserve better if these boundaries are crossed again and again. Disclaimer - The content of this blog is not related to my relationship.

UN Chief Urges Decolonisation of Western Sahara and 16 Other Territories

UN Secretary-General António Guterres has reiterated the need to complete the decolonisation process for Western Sahara and 16 other territories still under colonial administration. Speaking during the 2026 session of the Special Committee on Decolonisation (C-24), Guterres called on the global community to renew its commitment to ending colonial rule, a mission that has remained central to the United Nations for over six decades since it launched its decolonisation agenda. “This organisation was founded as a forum where nations meet as equals — not as rulers and the ruled,” he stated, stressing that decolonisation has been central to the UN’s mission since its inception. He highlighted the founding principles of the UN as a platform for equality among nations, rejecting the dynamics of rulers and the ruled, and affirmed that decolonisation has been integral to the organisation's purpose since its earliest days. Guterres pointed out that the lingering effects of colonialism continue to influence modern societies through widespread economic exploitation, systemic inequality, racism, and the exclusion of impacted populations from key decision-making processes. The C-24 was established in 1961 by the UN General Assembly to monitor progress toward self-governance in areas still considered Non-Self-Governing Territories under Chapter XI of the UN Charter. The committee’s authority stems from the 1960 Declaration on the Granting of Independence to Colonial Countries and Peoples, a pivotal document in advancing global decolonisation. During his address, Guterres outlined critical steps for completing the process. He stressed the importance of inclusive dialogue involving all relevant parties, including Non-Self-Governing Territories, administering powers, member states, and other stakeholders. He also emphasized that the unique circumstances of each territory should guide solutions, with decisions grounded in the principles of the UN Charter, the 1960 Declaration, and related General Assembly resolutions. Since its founding in 1945, the UN has supported over 80 former colonies—representing nearly 750 million people—in achieving independence. However, 17 territories, including Western Sahara and several small island territories in the Caribbean and Pacific, remain on the organisation’s list. Together, these regions account for nearly two million people seeking self-determination. Western Sahara is often referred to as Africa’s last colony still awaiting independence. Administered by Spain as Spanish Sahara until 1976, its decolonisation process has faced prolonged challenges involving disputes among Algeria, Morocco, and Mauritania following Spain‘s withdrawal.

Regina Daniels Makes Valentine's Day Special by Gifting Her Mother a Pair of Vehicles

Nollywood actress and politician Rita Daniels recently received a heartwarming gift from her daughter, Regina Daniels, just in time for Valentine’s Day. Rita shared the joyful news on Instagram, revealing that Regina surprised her with two cars: a Toyota Land Cruiser and a Toyota Hilux. The gesture came at a time when she was experiencing transportation challenges. Rita expressed her gratitude online, announcing that her "Valentine came early" and inviting everyone to celebrate with her. She explained the circumstances leading up to the thoughtful gift, noting that one of the cars Regina had previously gifted her was damaged in an accident, while the other was taken away, leaving her without a reliable means of transport. Reluctant at first to tell Regina about her situation, she was eventually met with an overwhelming show of love and support. She shared, “It was hard for me to tell my daughter I had no means of movement due to her own situation… but look at what she did! She got me not one, but two cars! Thank you, my pride and joy, @regina.daniels.” A video accompanying her post captured Rita dancing joyfully beside the new vehicles, radiating happiness. Regina Daniels, who began acting at a young age, continues to be one of Nollywood’s leading stars, maintaining a prominent presence in both the industry and on social media.

Inspiring Young Women: A Valentine Message from the Enpowerher Initiative

My beautiful ladies- Mrs Grace Obanuso Happy Valentine’s Day ❤️ I know this holiday is usually about flowers and crushes and all that fun (and sometimes dramatic!) stuff, but today I want you to remember something more important: you are so deeply loved — not because of what you do, how you look, your grades, your talents, or how “grown up” you’re becoming — but simply because you are you. You are beautiful, you need no ones validation to make know that you are; you don’t have to say yes to every pressure, protecting your focus is protecting your peace. Let no man despise your youth, be an example of believers in character, words and charity Watching you grow into the young woman you’re becoming is one of the greatest privileges of my life. I see your strength. I see your kindness. I see the way you care about your friends, the way you think deeply about things, the way you try even when something feels hard. Even on the days when you doubt yourself, I hope you know I never doubt you. Growing up years can be exciting and confusing and wonderful and overwhelming all at once. As you figure out friendships, dreams, love, and who you want to be, I hope you always carry this truth in your heart: You are worthy of respect. You are worthy of kindness. You are worthy of a love that feels safe and steady and true. Don’t ever shrink yourself to fit someone else’s expectations. The right people in your life will celebrate your voice, your quirks, your laugh, your opinions, your big feelings, and your big dreams. You weren’t created to live small, refuse to shrink. You are made for more. No matter how tall you get, how independent you become, or how far you go in this world, you will always be my girl. I will always be in your corner — cheering you on, picking you up when you fall, and loving you through every season. Happy Valentine’s Day to all my beautiful daughters out there. I love you Mrs. ObanusoCares💕

After Meeting with Netanyahu, Trump Calls for Continued Iran Nuclear Negotiations

US President Donald Trump revealed he urged the continuation of negotiations with Iran during a White House meeting with Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu on Wednesday, February 11. The meeting took place as diplomatic efforts to address Tehran’s nuclear program gain momentum. Commenting on the closed-door discussions, Trump characterized the talks as productive but noted that no final agreement had been reached. He reiterated his commitment to diplomacy, stating that he advocated for ongoing negotiations to determine if a deal could ultimately be achieved. Writing on Truth Social, Trump emphasized his preference for a peaceful resolution but issued a cautious warning that the situation could escalate if an agreement proves unattainable. This visit marked Netanyahu’s sixth trip to the United States since Trump returned to office, occurring at a time of heightened regional tensions and increasing scrutiny over Iran’s nuclear ambitions. Netanyahu, who has consistently described Iran as an existential threat to Israel, is believed to have pressed Trump to pursue a more comprehensive agreement. Such a deal would extend beyond nuclear enrichment limits to address Iran's ballistic missile program and its support for proxy groups like Hamas and Hezbollah. Ahead of the meeting, Netanyahu’s office issued a statement highlighting Israel’s security concerns. The statement underscored that any potential agreement must address Iran’s missile capabilities as well as its influence in regional disputes. Iran, meanwhile, has signaled some willingness to curtail parts of its nuclear program in exchange for economic sanctions relief but remains resolute in rejecting demands related to its missile development and support for allied regional factions. In a public address prior to the Washington talks, Iranian President Masoud Pezeshkian warned that Tehran would not submit to what he described as excessive international demands. During a rally commemorating the 47th anniversary of the Islamic Revolution, Pezeshkian affirmed that Iran is open to verification processes and reiterated that the country is not aiming to develop nuclear weapons. However, he maintained that Iran would resist external pressure on other fronts. Before his meeting with Trump, Netanyahu also held discussions with Trump's special envoy Steve Witkoff and senior adviser Jared Kushner. The pair reportedly provided an update on preliminary talks held with Iranian officials the previous week. This renewed diplomatic push coincides with an expansion of the U.S. military presence in the region. Trump has repeatedly cautioned Iran about potential military action should negotiations falter, even mentioning the possibility of deploying an additional aircraft carrier strike group to the Middle East. Last month, the USS Abraham Lincoln was deployed amid rising tensions. Observers point out that Israel is concerned Washington may prioritize achieving an expedited deal over addressing critical regional security issues. Georgetown University professor Daniel Byman noted that some in Israel fear key concerns such as Iran’s missile program and support for proxy forces might not receive the focus they require during these negotiations. Additionally, political analysts speculate that Iran’s bargaining position may have been weakened in light of recent domestic unrest and last year’s joint U.S.-Israeli airstrikes targeting its military and nuclear infrastructure.

Trump Acknowledges Nigeria's First Lady Oluremi Tinubu as a Respected Leader in Recent Meeting

At the 74th Annual National Prayer Breakfast held on Capitol Hill, U.S. President Donald Trump extended a warm acknowledgment to Nigeria's First Lady, Oluremi Tinubu, describing her as a "very respected woman." This notable interaction marked a moment of international recognition and underscored the significance of her dual role as both a national figure and religious leader. Mrs. Tinubu, who also serves as a Christian pastor at the largest church in Nigeria, (RCCG) Redeemed Christian Church of God, joined the prestigious event and was invited on stage by President Trump amid applause from attendees. Trump expressed admiration for her influence, saying, "We’re honored to be joined today by Nigeria's First Lady, who happens to serve as a pastor in the largest church in Nigeria—a very respected woman." With these words, he highlighted her stature not just within Nigeria but also on the global stage. This commendation couldn't have come at a more pivotal moment for Nigeria. The country is currently undergoing vital transformations under the Renewed Hope administration led by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu. Guided by the All Progressives Congress manifesto, this agenda prioritizes key reforms aimed at tackling persistent economic, social, and infrastructural challenges. Among its core focus areas are fiscal responsibility paired with growth-driven investment strategies, job creation targeted at empowering youth, bolstering agricultural output to secure food availability, enhancing healthcare and education accessibility, developing infrastructure such as power, housing, and roads, strengthening security measures, supporting vulnerable communities through social programs, and promoting governance founded on anti-corruption principles. Furthermore, international recognition from figures like President Trump injects diplomatic momentum into Nigeria’s foreign policy strategy. The United States plays an essential role in various partnerships with Nigeria, ranging from counterterrorism efforts against Boko Haram and other insurgencies, to trade and investment via agreements like the African Growth and Opportunity Act. Such goodwill has the potential to amplify Nigeria’s initiatives—take the power sector as an example. Here, the Renewed Hope agenda is pushing for sustainable electricity solutions through public-private partnerships reminiscent of Lagos’s success with independent power projects. A supportive stance from global allies such as the U.S. could translate into increased investor confidence or even technical assistance that propels Nigeria’s reforms forward. Ultimately, the recognition of First Lady Oluremi Tinubu represents more than a personal accolade; it serves as a nod to Nigeria's evolving strategic presence on the global stage. In these moments of international collaboration and goodwill, there lies an opportunity for the nation to forge stronger partnerships that align with its vision of progress and resilience