Our Marriage Has No Peace"- Titilayo Adams

The relationship stories I get on a daily basis is becoming the huge part of my life; as I continue to pounder if most of the stories, are really happening... But off course i have a reliable source and is of no doubt, that this ugly situations are really turning the marriage institute, to a bitter experience. 
God is love and God ordained marriage to be a paradise on earth for couples. Marriage is a beautiful thing if we allow God to come in and rule our life and home.

Tony and Titilayo, got married on the 5th of April, 2010. And they have both cried out, that their marriage has been on fire since after their honeymoon in Paris. The first night they spent in their home after they returned from their honeymoon resulted in an argument the next morning. The quarrel that lead to them destroying their wedding album, and a lot of their properties. Whenever they had a misunderstanding Titilayo will move her things back to her parents' home and stay with them pending when her husband comes to apologize to her.

Despite the fact, that Tony and Titilayo have  been married for over five years, they still quarrel for reasons even they cant explain. Their constant arguments and quarrels will make Titilayo sleep on the Sofa whenever she couldnt go to her family house, Moreso when it is in the middle of the night. Titilayo had miscarriages on two occasion Based on the Consistent quareles. 
Titilayo loves her husband and she just wants to be with him no matter what happens.
Both parents who have been interceding on behalf of their children, they really wanted to know why the marriage had no peace, perhaps they are not meant to be together. So they decided to invite the couple to find out the reason for their constant quarrel, which has also caused Titilayo to loose two pregnancies.

They asked, why they quarreled and it resulted in them calling themselves names and destroying their properties as well. And why they burned their picture album etc. All these has been happening for over 5 years and they continued to come back to themselves. Why can't they fight for divorce to end their marriage, if they feel they are not compatible as husband and wife?  All these were the suggestive questions by both parents, since they felt maybe, the couple did  not really love themselves.

Titilayo started to cry as she explained in her own words "I love you T-boy, and you know it, but I can't understand why I have to keep seeing you as a monster who is always  threatening to kill me in my dreams and that really scares the living day light out of me whenever we are together".

Then Tony in his sober reflection said "I don't think this is only your problem, it's our problem together because since we moved to this house after our honeymoon i have been dreaming that you are having an affair with Mr Mario our Landlord's son"...

Obviously, both of them have been having strange or bad dreams that almost tore their home apart. After  both couples have explained their problems to their parents; in the course of the family meeting. It was clear, that the couple needed  divine intervention since their problem seems to be associated with some spiritual elements (dream).

Despite their challenges, the couple really wanted their marriage to work out. They both love each other, but they did not know what to do. Now they have started undergoing some counseling and praying sessions, they have also asked their parents and well wishers to join them  pray.

Finally, there are no perfect marriages or home anywhere in the world. There will always be ups and downs in marriages,  until we learn to see each other as a person and to love each other more. We shouldn't forget the fact that we are  from different backgrounds and we had different up bringing or the fact that we are from different races. We just need to tolerate and trust each other. Above all, we should pray fervently.

"And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quitetness and assurance for ever"- Isaiah 32:17

Queendaline Schneider

Why Do Nigerian Hustle So Much

What you need to know about Nigerian hustle life. The reason many Nigerian strives to earn a living might be breathtaking, critical and very touching story. It is not possible to live in a country like Nigeria without hustling. 

Lagos is one of the main center of industrial and the city of hustle; from the giant investors to the street hawkers and the oil entrepreneurs. In Lagos (Nigeria), everyone is busy doing whatever it takes to make a living in order to provide for their family or to be rank among the elite of the Society. 

Most family in Nigeria have their immidiate and extended family they have to take care of. From having 3-6 children they have to feed, clothed and pay school fees and taking care of their aged parents who do not have a good retirement insurance policy. 

During the course of growing up in Nigeria, I got to know that life is not made of bed of roses but on a platform of hard work and determination. Everyone in Nigeria start to hustle at the early stage of their life depending on the status quo of the family. 
For instance, those whose parents are wealthy might not have to real hustle. The people that are real hustler in Nigeria are the middle class and the poor people. The middle class hustle to keep their money or income in a stable condition and to acquire more wealth for their children to have a better future.

While the very poor people might start to hustle at early age; from hawking on the streets while their mate are learning in school. One of the things you will find in (Africa) Nigeria that is not possible in (Europe) Germany for instance, is Kids from (10-15) years hawkering sachet/bottled water, fruits, and snacks in traffic on the highways and Federal motor road. 

Some of them hustle till they get to school and the hustle still continue even after their studies and choosen career. It is not a surprise, that Nigerians are the most husltler people in the world; from music/movie to medicine, clearing and forwarding, importing of used and brand new goods from foriegn countries. The main port for the importers is in Apapa port authority Lagos. Where thousands of Nigeria youths go on daily basis to hutsle. The music and movie industry are moving well in Nigeria and most of the youth who have got talent for that are certainly doing well no doubt. Most of the avarage family want their children to study medicine because they believe the doctors are the richest in the world. They are not thinking of the first obligation 

of the doctor as to save life. 

I spent my 27 years in the world in Lagos. I was born and raised in Lagos and the memory of the hustle life of the people of Nigeria (my country) stayed with me. Even though I will live 60 years outside Nigeria I can still write and talk about the country; Culture, Lifestyle, Hustle, Corruption and Bad Governance, because i am a Nigerian, I have the blood of Nigeria, I still eats the food of Nigeria and i am a hustler even though I live in a rich and developed country as Germany. 

In all of the hindrances in the country the Nigerians are still amazing people, who can turn every situation for their good. They are optmistic people; they believe whatever they do that it will heed good results and they don't easily give up. Moreso, there is no where in the world that you will not find one Nigeria. They are the 'ancestor of Israelites' in Africa because immigrate is in their blood. I love Nigeria and God bless Nigeria!

Queendaline Schneider