Pastor 's Wife Commits Suicide

This story happened a few weeks ago. At the Glory Ministry Church in Lagos. A successful preacher and a soul winner, an excellent motivational speaker. He was a man of principle and a highly respected pastor. He was married to a beautiful woman and their marriage was blessed with four lovely children. The pastor was the founder of the glory ministry church, and due to his commitment to serve people, he was called to pastored a church.

For many years he always go on evangelism and visitation with his beautiful wife. Oftentimes people will invite the pastor to their home for prayer and counselling, and the pastor will go together with his wife to the house of the injured person.

One day a woman secretly invited the pastor to his house, and the paster went to see the woman without the knowledge. He got to the woman's house, and the woman told him that she is having a severe pain, that he want him (pastor) to lay hand on her and pray for her to receive a divine healing.

According to the story from a reliable source, that was the beginning of rom*n*e between the woman, and the pastor. The woman whose husband has not been around for a period of time due to his work; started having an affair with the pastor. A woman who the pastor and his wife had studied the scriptures with and counselled her. Who was not a member of their church, but some how got the link to the pastor and started calling for prayer and counselling. She became so close to the pastor and his family and sometime sent them gifts. Unknown to the pastor's wife that her husband has already 'fell in love' with the 'strange woman' the very first time the woman invited him to her house. They continue with their secret affair without the pastor's wife having any cue of the husband cheating on her until last month.

The woman has called the pastor as usual and the pastor had showed up, thinking it was business as usual, but this time around, it was 'good news' for the pastor, what was the good news? The woman pastor has been having an affairs with is now pregnant for the pastor and he wants the pastor to her for an abortion, the pastor had doubted if the woman was serious or she is playing pranks on him. Then she showed him medical result of her pregnancy test.

Then the pastor told the woman that she will have the baby for him, but the woman insisted that she wants the pastor to take her to the hospital to abort the baby. But the pastor refused bluntly that he will not go for any abortion with her, that it was enough that he commited an adultery with her but he will not join her to murder the little live that is growing inside of her...

The woman went to the church, where the man and his family are fellowshipping... After the sunday service he called the pastor & his wife, and some miniters in the church and broke the news to them. That she has been having an affairs with pastor and she got pregnant for the pastor. The pastor's wife and the elders of the church asked the pastor and he admitted he has commited the sin of adultery but his wife could'nt belief...

The pastor's wife became depressed, devastated and suffering high blood pressure. Her husband (pastor) was dismissed from his duty as a pastor after he admitted that he has commited the sin of adultery. He left the church, and his wife condition became very worse, she started using overdose  medicine for her sickness. She died from using overdose drugs. The children are highly disappointed in their father and they still cry over the death of their mother: no one knows about the another woman 'disparaging' in her church.

The problem of adultery in churches has been for too long and most pastors and members has been immersed in it for too long. I once watched pastor E.A Adeboye where he talks on some of our spiritual (religion) leaders who are engaging in the act of adultery and when he try to warn them of it they says they know God will forgive of them because Jesus has given them the grace of '70*7'...

Adultery is a sin against the holy spirit and against humanity because not only those who commited the sin of adultery atleast suffer from it but also the family of those involved in the act and it makes the unbelievers to mock the believer because they believe the pastor should be a role model; pastor should pratice what they preach. The only condition Jesus gave for divorce was based on adultery.
" And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery"- Matthew 19:9

Hear me, if Christ is the husband of the church, don't you think Christ can as well divorce whoever commit an adultery. Story deceiving yourself base on the logic of '70*7' grace does not give license to sin, and also that continue in sin shall perish.
"For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord"- Romans 6:23

The main reason of writing this report/story is to help pastors and spiritual leaders realize the danger of adultery. Please if you are having an affair outside your marriage discontiue from  such affair and make a restitution... Pastor cherish your spouse and always tell her your weak points. No one is perfect, strive to finish well in your christain race.

My advice for women, please don't allow the devil to use as agent of darkness for the fall of these Ministers of God. " Behold, I set before you this day a blessing and a curse"- Deuteronomy 11-26
Covered up your nakedness in church. Leave the pastors alone to do their assignment on earth. And pastors take your eyes off your beautiful sisters in the church. I want to address the mode of dressing of christain woman but I will leave that for another time.

I pray God have mercy on me a sinner and you. Shalom!
Queendaline Schneider. 

How The Love For Money Destroy a Marriage

Febuary 2, 2002- The day Abayomi Johnson asked Sarah Banker to be his wife. Sarah was a musician in London at the time. Sarah was at the peak of her musical career when Johnson proposed to her.

Abayomi Johnson who was a Lagosian; he was born and raised in Lagos-Nigeria before leaving for the UK. He is a successful business man. He has a very bright personality which made it easy for Sarah to fall in love with him. His smile is infectious and could bringten up anyones day. His appearance is like that of a strong, and stable minded person. He is ready to give his heart to anything he sets out to get. Moreso, Johnson had a charming face and good body build that will make any woman to fall for him. His dark smooth skin tone and brown eyes matched with his white teeth. He is every girl's dream man.

Sarah was a very beautiful girl too, she is fair in complexion, born and raised in the UK. Sarah had a talent, and a very bright career as a singer. Few years later after their meeting Johnson and Sarah got married and their marriage was blessed with two amazing Kids; Nifemi and Jay. They both decided to relocate to Nigeria since Johnson had a flourishing business he was doing in Nigeria. He was into importing, with a big Warehouse at Apapa Lagos. Apart from his head office in Apapa he also had a very big store/warehouse in a big shopping mall in Lagos, his wife Sarah was the manger; together they had a lot of sales persons, young men who help them to run the business.

One day, Johnson called James Obadara; one of the sales boy, who works with his wife. (James) a native of Ondo State from the west part of Nigeria. He told him that he was having problem with his
wife. James asked his boss what the problem was? Johnson narrated how he had to spend 1million naira (4,000£) on food stuffs and provisions each time his mother-in-law visits them from London. All this will happen within three weeks of her stay and he doesn't like the fact he has to spend such amount of money each time she visited them. He asked James to help him talk to his wife, telling her
the state of his mind.

James was a hard working and detailed employee, that made him, his boss favorite. He also help out around the house. His bosses will often reward him by giving him some of their expensive used clothes, furnitures, electronics and other things. James brought most of the things he got from his
 to his family, seeing he was the first son of the family. James did as his boss had instructed him, he called his boss's wife and told her the conversation he had with her husband, also the fact that he was'nt happy with the way things were. Then the wife (Sarah) told James that Johnson was a big liar, that Johnson did not spend the amount he claimed to have spent on food stuffs. She told James that
she had noticed that husband was'nt happy, when she didn't make sales and brought very little money
home, she admitted that business was'nt going well and she didn't know the reason why but her husband blamed her for it. At this juncture, James is lost because he isn't sure who to believe

One day, Johnson told his wife that he needed to use her sport car, she obliged him. He drove off, just to return with a girl sitting beside him in the car. He parked the car in front of the shopping mall where Sarah's office is located. Like he knew she will; she saw her car with another woman sitting inside the car with her husband and she approached them, to better understand what was going on, her husband drove off, he didn't return to the house until very late at night.

Sarah who was still in shock by her husband's actions could'nt sleep, she tried to question her husband about what happened earlier in the day but he replied saying if she don't leave him in peace,
he was going to leave the house, and marry a secound wife. Sarah who in crazy love with her husband knew something wasn't right but she was ready to do anything to protect her marriage. She
quickly called on James who had become her confidant over the years. She asked James to take her to a Prophet, concerning her marriage. As always James came through and took Sarah to see a Prophet.
Along the line, word got to Johnson, on his wife's frequent visits to the Prophet for help. He also knew that James is the only one that is close to his wife, and will mostly likely be the person to have taken her to the Prophet's place. He invited James to follow him out, James got in the car as always. No questions, Mr Johnson drove to somewhere in Lagos Island, that is densely populated by miscreants, popularly called "Area boys" in Nigeria. When they got to what look like a hang out spot, Johnson asked James to come out of the car and he handed James to the thugs, saying "this him".
That was all the cue the thugs needed to pounce on James, the boys tortured James so much, they burned the hair on his skin with a candle. While the torture continued, James asked what his offense was, and told him that his boss (Johnson) told them he stole his Rolex wristwatch. James being a wise young man, quickly admitted to stealing the Rolex, he told them it was at his place, he ask that they followed him to his house so that he could give the wristwatch to them, since it was of more value than his life.

The thugs agreed and followed him to his family house where James lived. When they got there, they introduced themselves as police officers from Lagos Island police statiion; to James's family, that James was arrested for stealing his boss's Rolex. James who was in agonizing pain could not speak out, he just kept weeping continuosly. James had just lost his mother few weeks before this ugly incident. The family members were still mourning the death of James's mother, they all look really shocked with the latest development.

After searching and not finding any Rolex in the house, they threatened to take James back to their custody, James's elder sister demanded for their ID card as Nigeria Police force and they could'nt produce one. His sister Maia, said to them without their identity card they will not take her brother any where, especially not in his present critical condition. After an extensive argument and fight from James's sister the member of his family and friends the thugs were over powered and left without taking James with them.

A few days later after James has fully recovered and was a lot better, he was able to tell the family the whole story; he said he didn't steal the Rolex wristwatch, he also told them of how his boss's wife planned on selling all the properties of Mr Johnson and move to the UK with him (James) so that Johnson will not be able to get him because he is a very dangerous man, and could kill anyone to save Face. Apparently Johnson got to know about her plans and all Hell broke loose.

At end of everything Sarah and Johnson divorce and she moved on with her life.
"He who loves money will not be satisfied with money: nor he who loves wealth, with gain: this also is vanity"- Ecclesiates 5:10

Queendaline Schneider. 

German TV Revealed Au pairs' Exploitation

Au pair meaning "equal" in french. Au pair is mostly young woman between the age of  (18-30) years. These young women leaving their country a developed country through a registered au pair agent or organisation that help to connect them to their host family in the country they wish to work as a au pair.

The au pair work is to take care of the children and also to help with some of the house work, in exchange for food, a room and some pocket money every week. A lot of young women or girls in under developing or developed countries use this means to travel to foreign country in exchange of culture and to connect to the world; which I think is not bad.

A recent TV investigation in Germany, revealed, some au pairs are working for more than 12 hours a day and 70 hours a week in a German homes; working for full time childcare and and doing household chores for an average wage of 100 €. Apart from the fact that some Au pairs are been over used, some of them are been s*x*ul abuse by their host family.

The 'German's Au pairs' programme aired few days ago after an investigation with a spy camera
which last several months. Two au pair told the investigative Reporter how they worked for 12 hours
 in a day  without getting enough rest or earn good wage. And one of the au pair also explained how she been abused by her host family.

The Au Pair work usually is to take care of the children and do some house work in exchange for food, a room to sleep and pocket money every weekend. It is also an opportunity for them to explore the country of their host family by learning a new culture and new life style. But on the other hand these women are indirectly doing full time work; taking care of children and doing all the domestic work in seven days a week including on public holidays. Some of the host family also use the Au pair to work in their guest house.

The investigations team also monitored some of the agents who contracted Au pair to their host family and they worked together to make sure they rescued some of the au pairs and bring them to a new host family with the hope of good working condition.

In Germany once a person is working under a contract (written or verbal) on a full time or part time, that person has the same rights under the employment. Therefore, Au pairs are entitled at the national minimum wage of 8.50 per hour. In addition the host family should also see Au pair as part of their family and help them to enjoy their experience as a Au pair without any physical or emotional abuse of any sort.

I will advice anyone who loves to take care of children to give it a try but it better if you go through a hiring and look for a good agencies as an element back up in cases of any form of abuse. You can actually learn a lot as a Au pair. It is interesting and enlightening to experience the culture of different country by this way.

For how to become a Au pair visit greataupair or aupairworld.

Queendaline Schneider. 

I Have Never Cheated on My Husband- Tiwa Savage

Nigerian professional Singer (First African Female Pepsi Ambassador) Tiwa Savage in interview with Pulse Nigeria reveals what she has been covering up in her marriage with Mr Tunji Balogun (also known as TJ) for the past two years.

TJ accuses Tiwa of infidelity on social media via Instagram posts which were later removed few hours after they were been posted yesterday. The man TJ, also claimed that without him Tiwa Savage is nothing. That he invested his work and money to make sure Tiwa is successful in her career. TJ, who was the ex-manager of Tiwa and he was sacked by her due to mismanagement of funds. 

"Since I sacked him from my management, he has been struggling financially. He was stealing from me, so I had to save my marriage and separate business from family", she said. 

The truth is that I have been covering him up but he said to me that I have taken his manhood; that I do not allow him to perform as a man in the house. Because i am the one doing everything in the house since i'm the one working for long hours, so I took charge, but I covered up for him, I do everything and I make him feel like he is the one doing the own thing for the family. 

I have been dealing with the following problems which she highlighted; Alcohol, Comes home late, Infidelity, Cocaine, bad debt and a husband who is jealous of his wife' success. 

I covered up for a lot of hurt in our relationship. I have been searching for 45Million Naira so that don't kill him and The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) does not arrest him. 

So he made it easy for me to walk away"- Tiwa Savage. 

Despite all that has happened between TJ and Tiwa she remains a wonderful woman. who can find a virtuous woman? She continue to pray for TJ and also uses the medium to apologised should she has done anything wrong to TJ, if she has'nt love him a enough or if she has neglected him or if there is anything that she has done and she can think of, but above all she said that she love Tunji. And she also said that she would'nt stop Tunji from seeing their son but she try and raise the child to become a good man and she ended the interview with prayer for Tunji. 

Picture source: Tiwa Savage page. 

Interview: Pulse TV Nigeria. 

Spring And Rebirth

Spring is the first season of the year. There are four seasons; Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter.

Spring is abouth the promise of 'Rebirth' because Spring is the season of the new beginning. I love the Spring, I am so happy and super excited for every Spring time that i'm priviledge to see with my eyes. The wonders of the nature: During the spring season the grass popping up, the fresh buds bloom and nature seems to be awaken again.

Isn't that wonderful? The earth seems to come to life again. The Gardeners and Farmers plant their seeds and waits as it rise slowing. At such a time everything feel so beautiful, colourful and hopeful. Spring is often associated with increased rainfall, which helps to water the earth and the seeds taking root in the ground. 

The spring is my favorite season of the year. The sun is shining, but it cool here; the air is crisp and I can feel the gentle breezy. Not only do I love the four seasons but the spring is so amazing. How beautiful our surroundings look in Spring Nature is at its Peak and transformative and beauty is all I behold everywhere. "Earth laughs in flowers"- Ralf Waldo Emerson

Spring for me is a reminder that God has and will never stop making all things beautiful in His own time. "While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease"- Genesis 8:22

"Spring adds new life and new beauty to all that is"-unknow

The People of the Jewish celebrate passover during Spring, to commemorates when they were been set free from their slaving in Egypt, we can find the story of the passover in the book of Exdous, Deuteronomy, Numbers according to the account and History the passover day falls on first full moon 

after the northern Spring. 

However, Spring is the month of Easter celebration, and Easter is associated with the celebration of fertility. In Germany; the Germans use "the bunnies and the eggs" and these are symbolic of fertility and procreation. The Spring is embodied in beauty of life in nature and the hope of mankind. 

Written: by Queendaline Schneider.