German TV Revealed Au pairs' Exploitation

Au pair meaning "equal" in french. Au pair is mostly young woman between the age of  (18-30) years. These young women leaving their country a developed country through a registered au pair agent or organisation that help to connect them to their host family in the country they wish to work as a au pair.

The au pair work is to take care of the children and also to help with some of the house work, in exchange for food, a room and some pocket money every week. A lot of young women or girls in under developing or developed countries use this means to travel to foreign country in exchange of culture and to connect to the world; which I think is not bad.

A recent TV investigation in Germany, revealed, some au pairs are working for more than 12 hours a day and 70 hours a week in a German homes; working for full time childcare and and doing household chores for an average wage of 100 €. Apart from the fact that some Au pairs are been over used, some of them are been s*x*ul abuse by their host family.

The 'German's Au pairs' programme aired few days ago after an investigation with a spy camera
which last several months. Two au pair told the investigative Reporter how they worked for 12 hours
 in a day  without getting enough rest or earn good wage. And one of the au pair also explained how she been abused by her host family.

The Au Pair work usually is to take care of the children and do some house work in exchange for food, a room to sleep and pocket money every weekend. It is also an opportunity for them to explore the country of their host family by learning a new culture and new life style. But on the other hand these women are indirectly doing full time work; taking care of children and doing all the domestic work in seven days a week including on public holidays. Some of the host family also use the Au pair to work in their guest house.

The investigations team also monitored some of the agents who contracted Au pair to their host family and they worked together to make sure they rescued some of the au pairs and bring them to a new host family with the hope of good working condition.

In Germany once a person is working under a contract (written or verbal) on a full time or part time, that person has the same rights under the employment. Therefore, Au pairs are entitled at the national minimum wage of 8.50 per hour. In addition the host family should also see Au pair as part of their family and help them to enjoy their experience as a Au pair without any physical or emotional abuse of any sort.

I will advice anyone who loves to take care of children to give it a try but it better if you go through a hiring and look for a good agencies as an element back up in cases of any form of abuse. You can actually learn a lot as a Au pair. It is interesting and enlightening to experience the culture of different country by this way.

For how to become a Au pair visit greataupair or aupairworld.

Queendaline Schneider. 

I Have Never Cheated on My Husband- Tiwa Savage

Nigerian professional Singer (First African Female Pepsi Ambassador) Tiwa Savage in interview with Pulse Nigeria reveals what she has been covering up in her marriage with Mr Tunji Balogun (also known as TJ) for the past two years.

TJ accuses Tiwa of infidelity on social media via Instagram posts which were later removed few hours after they were been posted yesterday. The man TJ, also claimed that without him Tiwa Savage is nothing. That he invested his work and money to make sure Tiwa is successful in her career. TJ, who was the ex-manager of Tiwa and he was sacked by her due to mismanagement of funds. 

"Since I sacked him from my management, he has been struggling financially. He was stealing from me, so I had to save my marriage and separate business from family", she said. 

The truth is that I have been covering him up but he said to me that I have taken his manhood; that I do not allow him to perform as a man in the house. Because i am the one doing everything in the house since i'm the one working for long hours, so I took charge, but I covered up for him, I do everything and I make him feel like he is the one doing the own thing for the family. 

I have been dealing with the following problems which she highlighted; Alcohol, Comes home late, Infidelity, Cocaine, bad debt and a husband who is jealous of his wife' success. 

I covered up for a lot of hurt in our relationship. I have been searching for 45Million Naira so that don't kill him and The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) does not arrest him. 

So he made it easy for me to walk away"- Tiwa Savage. 

Despite all that has happened between TJ and Tiwa she remains a wonderful woman. who can find a virtuous woman? She continue to pray for TJ and also uses the medium to apologised should she has done anything wrong to TJ, if she has'nt love him a enough or if she has neglected him or if there is anything that she has done and she can think of, but above all she said that she love Tunji. And she also said that she would'nt stop Tunji from seeing their son but she try and raise the child to become a good man and she ended the interview with prayer for Tunji. 

Picture source: Tiwa Savage page. 

Interview: Pulse TV Nigeria. 

Spring And Rebirth

Spring is the first season of the year. There are four seasons; Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter.

Spring is abouth the promise of 'Rebirth' because Spring is the season of the new beginning. I love the Spring, I am so happy and super excited for every Spring time that i'm priviledge to see with my eyes. The wonders of the nature: During the spring season the grass popping up, the fresh buds bloom and nature seems to be awaken again.

Isn't that wonderful? The earth seems to come to life again. The Gardeners and Farmers plant their seeds and waits as it rise slowing. At such a time everything feel so beautiful, colourful and hopeful. Spring is often associated with increased rainfall, which helps to water the earth and the seeds taking root in the ground. 

The spring is my favorite season of the year. The sun is shining, but it cool here; the air is crisp and I can feel the gentle breezy. Not only do I love the four seasons but the spring is so amazing. How beautiful our surroundings look in Spring Nature is at its Peak and transformative and beauty is all I behold everywhere. "Earth laughs in flowers"- Ralf Waldo Emerson

Spring for me is a reminder that God has and will never stop making all things beautiful in His own time. "While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease"- Genesis 8:22

"Spring adds new life and new beauty to all that is"-unknow

The People of the Jewish celebrate passover during Spring, to commemorates when they were been set free from their slaving in Egypt, we can find the story of the passover in the book of Exdous, Deuteronomy, Numbers according to the account and History the passover day falls on first full moon 

after the northern Spring. 

However, Spring is the month of Easter celebration, and Easter is associated with the celebration of fertility. In Germany; the Germans use "the bunnies and the eggs" and these are symbolic of fertility and procreation. The Spring is embodied in beauty of life in nature and the hope of mankind. 

Written: by Queendaline Schneider. 

What I Tag The 7 Power Points To Overcome Loneliness

Loneliness is the act of any unpleasant emotional reaction to isolation or lack of friendship or companionship. 
Humans are designed as social animals that needs to interact with its fellow being on a daily basis. As a social being we must learn to interact with people at all times without problem, any time and any where.
Some research have previously shown that loneliness can be prevalent throughout society amongs some class of people; for instance, among people in marriage, relationship, family, and people who have successful careers. I believe this to some extent because you can be married or in relationship and still be very lonely. You can have a successful career or a good job and still be lonely. The truth is, there is nobody in this world, that doesn't have one problem or the other to solve either directly or indirectly. because the human brain is programmed to solve a problem. If you think, you don't have any problem, that in itself, can also be a problem for others to question your state of being and happiness. Even our God the the creator of the Universe Constantly Has Problems to solve. We all  feel lonely at some point in our lifes. It is
only when we do not control our emotions in our lonely state, that it becomes a problem. 

I HAVE IDENTIFIED 7 POWER POINTS TO OVERCOME LONELINESS;
1). Go out as often as possible, Remember Loneliness is associated with people with very passive state of minds. if we let loneliness eat deep into our minds this could lead to depression. And depression kills faster than malaria. Going out of our closet, could help us fight loneliness. There is nothing as good as going out and enjoying every moment as it passes. Dress up and look nice, go to a Restaurant, A Café, The Cinema, Go around your surroundings, even the World, and Be adventurous. 
I remember vividly when I just relocated to Germany, sometimes I felt lonely because I was missing my family and friends in Lagos-Nigeria, each time I remember a happy memory, I felt more lonely. Since I was new in Germany, I had no one to talk to apart from my husband, who works for over 12 hours (Monday-Friday). 
All that changed the moment I started going out, I became a different person,  I got to meet and 
talk to people and I got to know more about my community. For Me, the only reason why there are not many cases of depression in Nigeria (Africa) is because the people know how to have a good time. They enjoy life to the fullest, no matter the Circumstance. Thereby, managing  their stress level and fighting  loneliness.

2). Make your family your friends: Developing good relationship with our family is very key. This enables us share some of our deepest fears without  the fear of being judged or ridiculed. It also fosters a stronger bond. The time shared with family is priceless.

3). Meet New People and Talk: Tell your problems or pour your heart to a stranger; if this gives you the security of protecting yourself, without being tagged with your problem, Then why not. 
telling it to a total stranger is the best. Sometimes, we meet people for the first time, and it looks like we have known them 
for ages. I have met people in the Café, Resturants, Train and even while walking in the forest and we talk about everything like we were best friends and in the end everyone goes their separate ways. Isn't that amazing, that we can talk with strangers because we don't get to see each other again and the memories goes on. "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others"- Philippian 2:4

4). Read your bible and join a group: Still the thought, of always thinking about 
yourself. instead read your bible and meditate on it. Get a place Where you can volunteer. Focus on helping others. When you help others you feel accomplished, that way you pay less attention on your lonely thoughts. Do good for others, wish others well in life, also smile at  people when you go out, what a great joy it brings. Don't forget a little kindness goes a long way. 

5). Make new friends: Find new people you share the same interests with. Having  people of the same personality, is a natural way for beginning a good friendship because you naturally push and drive each other. Cut off from any one who drags you 
down or people with negative energy.

6). Love yourself. Take good care of yourself and always look good. I think loneliness sometimes comes from the feeling of rejection, thoughts of not being who you would like to be, or being in a wrong relationship, or not having anyone appreciating you. Looking good will make us look attractive to other people and the feeling that comes from getting complements, Is Amazing. 
One of the victim of depression i'm working with at my place of work; I saw her yesterday looking very good, and I said  to her you look good today and she smiled and said someone else told her same and she was very happy about it. I really wish her quick recovery from her state of loneliness. She had isolated herself for over one one year without coming out or talking to people. Now, she is getting better and I always look forward to meeting with her every friday.  
Loneliness is painful and it can make you begin to feel that you are an outcast, you just have to 
love yourself and accept who you are because that is how nature has made you. Don't compare your life with that of others.

7). Pray: Praying can never be over emphasized, it does good like fine wine. 

Written by Queendaline Schneider. 

How Her Love Cuts The Red Ribbon

Sharon's figure is one that gets the attention of all men. This Story, took place in Lagos
Nigeria, in the year 2014.

Sharon Patrick, a street hawker Who Sold Oranges on the streets of Lagos To help her parents. She meets Adejire who is a footballer from the UK and they start a romance.

Sharon gets engaged to Adejire and moves in with him, but soon she finds out that 

Adejire is a drug dealer and user. But she Couldnt let go because she loved him and 

at the time, she was already carrying his baby. Sharon's family were not really in support of their daughter's relationship for some reasons but Sharon will not let go because of her love for him. Whenever he used the drugs (cocaine) he will beat her till she passes out. At times, he would starve her and  fight her using weapons. Along the 
line in one of their fights she lost the pregnancy and was forced to move out of the house but Adejire will not let go, he kept coming back for her and making Promises to 

her and make her happy. Apart from the fact that he hits her, he is also a smart 
cheater. Often times, he cheats on her, then assures her that she is the only one he is in love with. After a lot of scars on her body, she decided to leave Adejire and move on with her life she also made up her mind never to settle down 

with any black man ever again. 

Few months later when  she meet Razon Rice, An American Citizen who came to work in Nigeria, and seemed to be interested in her, She knew her prayers have been answered. they both started a  romance, that led to marriage almost immediately. she 
wanted to relocate to the States since Adejire had threatened to kill her if she doesn't settle down with him. A Few Months Later, In the process of getting her life together, after she got married she discovered that her husband is  HIV positive. Armed with that knowledge, she went In To Get Herself Tested, but Her result came out Negative. since they have been having protected s*x. 
She just got out of a relationship which left her traumatized, Now she find herself in another mess. Presently they live in the state's and Razon has been violent, physically and emotionally. He threatens to use a sharp object to cut himself and use the same 

object to cut her. so that they can both be victims of the deadly virus. Now Sharons only aim is to  try to escape from home.

Note: please before you go into any relationship commit it into the hand of God and pray about it very well. No matter what will are going through in life we should'nt because of that make any costly mistake. Love is a beautiful thing because God is love. Please what advice do you have for those who might be passing through same problem. 

Wrtten: by Queendaline Schneider. 

Interesting Places I Visited

Travel as become part of me eversince I relocated to Germany. I have been doing a lot travelling since I got married. I was lucky that my husband would take me on every trip he went on, in order for me to see other cultures and how other people are living.

Travelling is like education because you learn other people cultures and you see things you have probably read in books while you were in school and historical places you have heard about in the past. Travelling helps us to appreciate life better. I have so far visited a lot of countries, big cities in Europe and I have 

travelled two continents as I look forward in visiting the rest of the continents. As an African 

child, if I did not has the opportunity to travel out of my country, I would have believe every country is currupt and lack good leadership skills like my country. 

Nigeria. Nigeria is a land filled with riches and resources, while many are been starved and a few powerful individuals exploit the masses to enriched themselves and their family. Despite having power plants available to produce electricity, there has never been costant electricity in Nigeria.I have been living in Germany for four year, there has never been power failure. There is costant electricity in the country. Travelling has help me to see the other part of the world and see the different cultures and their diversity. We are all equal but there are differences in colour, race, culture and religion. Rather than using those differences to classified people, it will be good we start learning from other people cultures and embrace it. 

One of the things I learn from travelling is other people culture and the knowledge again 

from visiting historical sites.

The most interesting places I have visited so far includes Berlin, Paris, Venice amongs other. Since I live in the West part of Germany and have visited most of the big towns in Germany but Berlin remain in my heart because there is a lot of history in the city of Berlin. There are a lot of historical sites, museums and the feeling of the West and East Berlin togetherness. " ...All free men..., I take pride in the worlds "Ich bin ein Berliner!" John F. Kennedy June 26, 1963.

Paris: is a town of history, culture, love and style. Paris is known for one of the world amazing constructure the Eiffel Tower, Palace of versailles, Arc de Triomphe, World Disney amongs other. The Eiffel Tower is 324 metres (1,063ft) tall, it is the second-tallest structure 
in France. It looks very romantic at night, with the lighting illumination. (We spent our honeymoon here and we loved it)! In
Paris love is the simple definition, no wonder, it is one of the romatic city of the world. Paris is a town that never sleep!

Venice: The city of Venice in Italy is an interesting place to visit; such a beautiful culture and surroundings. Starting from the magnificient buildings San Marco, Doge's palace

  Torre dell' Orölogio, a clock tower built. I also enjoyed the gondola ride, the San Marco church was interesting for me, as the church is said to have been in existence for over 1,500 years ago. Women are'nt allowed to wear trousers or short pants inside the church.With the gondola and water bus faires one can nearly viewed the complete Venice. My visit to Venice made me to remember the Olege village in Nigeria where my great grand parents were the first settlement. Although the Olege villiage does not have any great architecture designs like the Venice. 

And our trips would'nt have been complete without the visit to Verona for been the setting of Shakespeare's "Romeo and Juliette"

 I read the Romeo and Juliet novel in my High School visiting the historical house that was said to have been Juliet's balcony even though one can not ascertain this fact; yet millions of people visit, write letters to Juliet and make wish with Juliet's b**st. Such amazing love story!

Written by Queendaline Schneider. 

Why The Kenyans Are Strong In Racing (Marathon).

QUEENDALINE SCHNEIDER 

WHY THE KENYANS ARE STRONG IN RACING (MARATHON). 

Why are Kenyans winning so many marathon? Marathon demand a lot of training, focus and it might required months and years to train for marathon. Because marathon consists of longer runs in kilometers. 

During the last just concluded German Wein-Street Marathon; the relay and the toughness of the distance runners of the race have to go. I kept pounding about the training they must have done for this race. 

My observation of the last German Wein-Street Marathon shows that the Africa (Kenyans) are really strong when it come to racing; even after the full marathon Evans Taiget did not break down, while other runners where running to medical team for check up, massage and even to get a drink as fast as possible, he remain calm and strong as press men and women from the newspaper run after him for interview as the champion of the marathon race. 

Why Kenyans athletes are strong and fast: "we have advantage of walking by foot most of the time, and we eats a lot of fresh vegetables and meat"- Evans Taiget

How does the environment shape a runner? Most of the Kids in some African countries are used to running to school barefoot, they walk 5-10 kilometers to and fro to school or farm. Which, I think has some advantage because it means they grow up with the skills of running. And the region is at high altitude. On the other hand, the marathon might not be easy for some of the Europeans/Americans due to the wealther condition and eating of a lot of processed food, and the luxurious life the Kids in Europe/America enjoy. 

I think, the reason why the Kenyans are strong in running is because they walk barefoot most time, the high altitude and last the hardship in the country makes them to train well. The quest to move away from pervading poverty in their country is enough motivation to drive them to train hard enough to make the persevere and 
 the hardship that comes with winning marathons.