Sunday 24 December 2023

I am Thankful For Everything

 Some of the things I am thankful for, among others:

Photo credit: Private 


Today, being the 24th of December 2023, I am here to thank all of you, my family and friends! Writing individual thankful messages might take more time, but with this, no one is going to be left out. 

 I am thankful to those who gave me food, thankful for all the groceries, and, of course, thankful to the farmers and those who process our food. I am thankful for all our doctors and nurses for using the wisdom God has given them to save lives and care for others. So thankful for all the new research and support in our medical system today. 

 I am thankful for the seasons of the year, from summer to spring and winter. Without summer, I wouldn’t have gotten enough sunshine; without spring, I wouldn’t have appreciated the beauty of nature as the flowers bloomed; and without winter, I wouldn’t have appreciated having a room to sleep in.  

I am thankful for the sunshine and fresh air that I breathe every day. I am thankful for good health. Health is wealth," they say. You won’t know how important health is until you are unable to do something. 

 I am thankful for my weaknesses because, without them, I would not have recognized my strengths. 

 I am thankful for my problems, without them, I wouldn’t have known I had a God who could solve all my problems. 

 Furthermore, I am thankful for my job without it, I would not have been able to afford something or help others. 

 I am thankful for my family and friends; without you, I would not have a companion to share my joy with. Thanks to those who gave me a helping hand when I needed it. Thanks to those who check on me always,  thanks to those who send messages, and thanks to those who called me on the phone. I can never thank you enough, but my God will surprise you with an amazing testimony. 

 I am thankful for all my prayer partners: those who prayed for me in their secret places; those who call to pray with me; and, of course, those who see me on occasion and pray with me; and those who do remember me during their devotion to God. 

 Not only that, but I am thankful for the clothes I wear because they cover my nakedness. Likewise, I am grateful for having enough to wear in the summer and winter. 

 I am thankful for all my Destiny helpers, those who gave me a home to sleep in, those who gave me food to eat, and those who make me feel good all the time.

 I am thankful for my family in Nigeria for their love and support. Especially my elder brother, who has been my inspiration and encourager. I am so thankful for all the new family members, my nephew, my niece, my grandniece, and my brother-in-law. Without you, I would not have known the importance of addition. I thank God for you. 

 I am thankful for the year 2023, it has been a great year. Likewise, I am thankful for 2024 because it will be a great year too. 

 I am thankful for life. I have one trillion reasons to be thankful for life. Not only that, but I am so thankful for everything. And above all, I give God all the glory! Thank you, God almighty. I didn’t without mentioning any name but Jesus.

What are you thankful for today?
Drop in comment box. 
Happy Christmas Everyone! (Frohe Weihnachten 🧑‍🎄). 

Friday 17 November 2023

Why am I Single, When I’m such a good girl?


Why am I still single? Well, the answer to this question are not far-fetched. I have never thought about this, until recently when I had a conversation with a friend about my relationship life. And of course, I am not ignorant to the questions some friends ask me like "when would you get married" Other things seem to be going well and smoothly. I have two successful careers and I am working hard to become someone to reckon with in the society and also a woman of influence and a super role model to young generations. 


Who are in your circle of friends:

I have cut-off fake friends. I have chosen healthy and defined relationships to avoid wrong counsels.


I remember how some friends tried to introduce me to men/guys of their choice, because they thought time is no longer on my side. Well, maybe they all meant well for me but as for me, I didn’t find it funny at all. 

For instance, A friend tried introducing her elder brother to me, who was in another country (somewhere in Africa), at 40 years, this guy still living with his parents. He had no job but I don’t know about his education background though. Before I knew what was going on the sister had already given him my contact and sent some of my pictures to him. He started chatting with me on WhatsApp and I obviously didn't have any feelings for him.


 After some weeks I didn’t hear from him, then he showed up again telling me his phone had faults… oh God! I thought within myself, I have not even said yes to you and your phone has started having faults, what will happen if we end up dating. Not only will I sponsor the  marriage ceremony and process his documents to join me here, I'll also be responsible for other bills. After, discussing it with one of my mothers in Nigeria and some friends, they told me to just forget him. Which is also what I intended doing. Well, that was not the only option from Africa…


Another instance, happened here, I visited friend who just newly married and we talking, and we suddenly got talking about me being single. Before I knew it she and her husband had suggested to me a guy from their church. I have also met the guy before once when I attended the church service with them. That sounds good right! Well, as we continued in the conversation my friend husband told me that the guy is really ready to settle down and he is 40 years old. Then my friend quickly told me, that she doesn’t know if the guy has documents to travel to Nigeria for wedding like they did. I gently asked them, what he does for a living? Then my friend's husband replied in the negative. Then my friend said well, she don’t know too but she thinks the guy don’t have any vocational training in Germany. Well, that ended the conversation, as I got mute for a while. 


I know, I am not the only single out here, does any of the above instances sound familiar? Just wondering, how people throw what they can’t accept to you as help. 


Well, I am one happy girl, and above all of these things, I chose my joy and happiness. I don’t have any regrets and I have gotten to a stage in my life, where I will NEVER settle down with someone who has nothing doing. It's ok if he is doing a professional course but he must have something to show. I have seen people who are retired and still have to continue working 100 percent because they have a husband who has never worked before. 

I know people who seem to have it all. They have got everything; have achieved success in all spheres of life and they also feel unfulfilled. One thing is needed in life. Contentment and knowing God. There is a God! A lot of successful people/Celebrities are unable to achieve success in the area of marriage, why? Majorly because of the absence of the G-factor. 

 Going back on  memory lane, when I look back on times in my life, I thought within myself, "why am I single if I’m such a good girl”?  A lot of the reasons I didn’t put into consideration were:


Self Belief:

I used to think that I was still single for some reasons. I haven’t met the right suitor yet and I have built a system that I was proud of and my standards seems to be rightfully high! I needed to be more patient and not falling into the wrong hands etc. 


Nurturing Hope:

I solidly believed that one day I would attract my dream relationship, as long as I embraced a positive attitude; enjoyed my life, focusing on what I wanted in a partner… 


I Don’t Care Attitude:

I used to care so much about what everyone else thought about me being single. But I have come to realised, that not caring what anyone thinks of me, my life, and being true to myself is a powerful place to dwell in. 


Self Care/Tips from Queenscourt:

Dear fellow single lady, 

Take care of yourself and commit everything into the hands of your Creator (God). 

Enjoy life, life is magic don’t rush it, relax. No one else's love will heal you or make you whole, accept the unconditional love of God through Jesus Christ our Lord. 


Hey Friends, what do you think about this post? Kindly drop your comments and share your experience with me. Thank you and God bless! 


He had four unmarried daughters, who prophesied. (Act 21:9)


Seek and read from the book of the Lord: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them. (Isaiah 34:16)


Pen by Queendaline!

Monday 29 May 2023

My Reflections On Nigeria Democracy Day!

 


´'Emi lo kan'' President Bola Amed Tinubu. Leaders Must have a Proficient Tongue. The book of the Proverbs speak of the tongue and how to use it as a positive influence. However, Leaders who use words skillfully increase their influence. Leaders who understand the power of their words will accomplish great success und they speak hope for the future etc. ''For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.'' Proverbs 11:14

Lagos State Government: How do I forget a good governance. I lost my mommy a year after my common entrance examination. Common Entrance Examination is taking in Nigeria after the completion of primary school. 


I started St Michael Primary and Nursing School in 1991 and I did my Common Entrance Examination in 1996, the same year I completed my primary six class.


My mommy was  ill and I couldn’t go to secondary school. As I’m always with my mommy and she the one in charge of my education and that of my siblings. It was a bit tough time for my siblings and I. As my mommy’s health is important to us. My mommy died in July 7 ,1997. Her death was a great lost to our family even till date. 


After my mommy’s death, all my dream of attending my favorite secondary schools in Lagos was  shattered. I loved to attend Queens college in Yaba Lagos state or Federal Model college Ijanikin Lagos. I couldn’t go to any school. I had families who are well to do and  just that my mothers death seems to be the end of everything. I was a little Child when she died. So, my dream of going to Queens college was over but my love for education was  intact. In 1998 one of my mommy’s friends Alhaja Olaiya a business Mogul who deals with building materials had introduced me to Captain Ekeinde, the husband of popular Nigerian actress Omotola Jalade Ekeinde. Mr Ekeinde and his beautiful wife visited me and my family and they were really willing to sponsor my education and wanted me to live with them in their house as at then. A lot of people thought I am related to the actress. That is another story and this how I got to know captain Ekeinde and his beautiful family and I later visited them at their home.


My elder brother Prince has a library full of books because he was already a student at the Model college. So I started reading prince’s books even though most was science subjects. I started saving money to buy books. I started reading the Bible even though I didn’t have full understanding of the scripture at this stage of my life. I have just found a new therapy for the lost of my mommy. Reading and writing became my hobbies. 


In 1998, I slept and I dreamt I went to the Redeemed church. Well, I was born into white garment church… (C&S). As I woke up on the Sunday morning, I went to meet my cousin Morenike, who lived in the next street to our house. I asked her if she knows any church call Redeemed church? She replied me that she didn't know but there is one new church people are going now close to the busstop, ok. I had dressed up in one of my best clothes and I went to the church, lo and behold it was a Redeemed church (Holiness Parish) soon I found a new family in the Lord. I joined the teenager church. Later we had a group called the Ecclesiastes dancers. Super time, we dancers from the scripture. This group was was formed by sister Funmi Akinjola. Well, soon the pastor children became my friends and I brought most of my friends to the church. Soon I met my God mother Pastor Jacquelyn K. Heasley who came from America to Minister at RCCG. Soon I started attending camps services etc. I started Evangelism with our Pastor wife, going to hospital to pray for the sick etc. I forget I’m not even going to school as people thought I should be in School. I never share my problems with anyone as people believe if your father have a building and tenant in Lagos you are from a rich family. Well, I’m from polygamous family, my father married four wives. That is another story. 


In 1999 a new government emerged in Nigeria and Lagos state. That was the administration’s of Mr Bola Amed Tinubu. 


And I started my secondary school in that same year 1999. At same time, I am no longer worried about going to Queens college or Federal Model college, I just want to go to school. So, we went to make enquiry about the school. Well, my mother last words to me was that i should go to school and she told me that I will travel out of the country that I should just face my studies. 


I went to OHS secondary, the the woman in charge of the registration asked me which class I want to enrolled in, I told her JSS 3- then the sport Teacher Mr Femi called me out of office after he had patiently listened to our conversation. He pointed his finger to one of the school 3 storeys building, then he said, someone who just come from nowhere without any building experience can not build that building I’m seeing. He said he will advise me to start from JSS 1. That the foundation of everything in life is very important. Then I accepted his advice, I went back to the office and told them I will start from JSS 1. So they registered me. I got all my books and my brother bought my school uniform for me. 


Soon I started having good grades particularly in my English language and literature. Soon my teachers got familiar with me. Soon I became loved by some of them. My vice principal became my godmother. Some of the students had thought she was my relatives. As the love grew more deeper. My vices principal, is a wealthy woman. Her husband is rich and her sisters  are politicians. Soon I became members of the family, spending weekend at her beautiful luxury home and attending church service with them. When they transferred her away from the school, we still had contact together even till date. She is now like my real mommy, she accepted all my siblings and even when I introduced my half brother Ayo to her. Her children called me their cousin so you can imagine the kind of relationship we have built. I wear her clothes and I am very free in her house, as a matter of fact, that is my home till date. The love is too real and unconditional. Soon I finished my junior secondary school and started SSS1 (senior secondary school).


In 2000 Governor Bola Amed Tinubu (the elect President...) activated the provision of free education in all public primary and secondary schools. Books were been supplied to school library. I remember in my school also created a new library for all the students. Mr Bola Amed Tinubu also created the provision of payment of WAEC/NECO fees including all internal examination fees, to ensure that children do not drop out of School. This mean a lot to me and so is all the less privileged children who benefits from this system of education in Lagos State. 


Now I was already popular in the school. The new principal and vice principal also loves me. My writing continues as I publish some of my articles in the school magazine. I started representing my school for debates and essays competition and speech delivering. And I won various prices for my school including the award on world environmental day. During my secondary school days, I was privileged to meet some Lagos politicians, the Lagos state commissioner and Minister for education etc. 

I wrote a lot of articles, essays writing competitions, debates, poems and speech delivering. I was interviewed often by journalists from various TV station in Nigeria

I remembered on one occasion, when I just finished one of my speech delivery on National day for all Nigerian Secondary school. Powerful speech where I used some of leadership quotes from John Maxwell. On my way home the vice principal, the new vice principal  had offered to give me a ride and as she drop me. I saw one of my teachers on his balcony popularly known by the students as uncle T. Saw me coming and screamed my name Queen Ebinyi. I just finished watching your interview on the NTA channel 1. Great job, he said. I said thank you sir. I didn’t know the program was live on TV anyway. Thereafter I attended various seminars and soon, I started planning to publish a magazine, my dream was to become the youngest publisher. I have started going to different secondary schools to collect articles from the best students and start sharing my ideas with them. People like Banke Oregbemi the former Head girl of Model college. I also met the former principal of Model college Mr. Etti, who happened to be a close friend to Mr. Bola Amed Tinubu, when he heard about my writing skills. Mr Etti was willing to introduce me to Mr Bola Amed Tinubu who was the governor of Lagos state as at that time. In his word, he said that if the governor meet me he will definitely help me. After several attempts to make appointments with the governor, who was not in the country according to him as at that time. I continue pursuing my dream I gathered all my materials but I didn’t have money for publication but I kept on encouraging my team to keep on working. We continue doing research and the title of the magazine was Taking Nigeria to a greater height. And the organization name was Hope for tomorrow. Well, I went to different media houses in Lagos and I will never forget the impact of PM newspaper from the Editor Mr Ademola to the photographer Mr Idowu Ogunleye. who took me to their photo library and gave me pictures that will fit each of the write ups for the magazine. And the fact that they believe so much in my dream of becoming a publisher. Well, my publish articles ended up in Lagos State University at desk of Lecturer Mrs Yomi Ogunwunmi. The head of English department as at that time. Who promised to go through and see how she can be of help…


Well , in the journey of becoming the youngest publisher, I was introduced to the Nigerian Institute of Journalism. Where I study mass communication before attending London School of Journalism where obtained my diploma in general journalism and second diploma in blogging and lifestyle. I was also privilege during my secondary school to obtained a certificate from the new Era foundation from her excellency Mrs Oluremi Tinubu,,as a pre educator on HIV in eradicating the disease in Nigeria. 


I still have the certificate not only the certificate but the lessons and moral that I learnt at that time  has really shaped me into the woman I am becoming. Well, when I heard Mr Bola Amed Tinubu is the elected president of Nigeria, it was a mixed feeling for me. Though positive one. I believe with a good strategy he might rule Nigeria successfully. At this time, I want to encourage all Nigerians to forget everything that has happened and embrace the new government with a positive energy and continue to pray for all our leaders. 

Less I forget, I have the privilege of traveling around the world and I have been to a lot of countries in Europe and American and I still believe in the betterment of my beloved country Nigeria. 


Going to Redmeedmed church was a huge blessing for me and attending OHS secondary school which was what brought me to where I am today. I completed my nursing school with a diploma in Germany. I might not have got all the education like I wanted it but I am so thankful to God and my love for education is forever. And my love for the scripture is till eternity. 


Happy Demoracy Day Nigeria! God bless President Bola Amed Tinubu and God bless Nigeria. 


The Governor I never met!

I am Queendaline Schneider ( aka Queen Angelina).